I stand with Corey

I remember the first time my dad told me about the evils of pedophilia and child predators. At the time, I could never imagine what made him tell me that day. It was perfect. I was maybe 9 years old. We were sitting out on the picnic table, stargazing, talking about his youth. He sobered and says, “Kimberly, do you know about the wolves?”  I was still cheery from a story about a lhasa apso and neighbor child.  “No, what wolves?”A tiny piece of my youth ended that night.  He didn’t talk in euphemism or gentle terms. He told me what darkness looked like, what it wanted, how it hid. “I don’t care if it’s a friend, a teacher, or the president, there is not a threat or force on Earth more powerful than me. You know that. So, when I give you permission to say or do whatever you need to, you will never be in trouble for protecting yourself… or anyone else…”

When he trailed off he was looking down at our neighbor’s house. My best friends lived there. Two little girls. That pause and his quiet darkness, still makes me so sad. He was a superhuman force of nature. My daddy was everything he promised, but he couldn’t be everywhere. He had to give me some of his superpowers.

It wasn’t planned, but tonight, I had to tell my kids almost the same thing. They’ve always been told to speak up and get help. Because of my work, they have been told about grooming and certain types of deviants. Yesterday, my son saw what happens when no one around them has been told… given permission to fight to protect themselves. Or maybe, they weren’t even taught to recognize danger. So much paraphilia has been normalized and celebrated, it’s hard to tell.

“You will never ever be in trouble for confrontation. Use your tools. Speak up. If you say it, the other kids around you will know it’s okay to fight too! You are stronger than you know. And no consequence from a bunch of administrators could ever be worse than what will happen to your body or your soul, if you do nothing.” In a lot of ways, I know that this won’t make our kids invincible, but we can’t be everywhere.  All we can do is share our superpowers with them.

If you’ve been reading long, you can probably guess that my kids think I inherited my dad’s mantle of superhuman force of nature. I can’t let them down. As adults, we’re not released from that obligation or permission to stand up and be vocal when we see evil. It won’t always work. We’ll be met with opposition, ignorance, and complacency, but we still have to keep fighting. I think that’s why the trafficking world found me. My dad never gave me permission to quit fighting. I’ll never give it to my kids.

So, when I see a survivor speak out, I have to be sure they know they’re not alone. Corey Feldman grew up in a world of institutional rape and vile atrocity. Compared to stories of the survivors I’ve met from Appalachia, take out the glitz factor, and their stories are so similar. Day after day, he and his costars were subjected to casting couches, passed around parties, plied with drugs and booze, and when they get too old, thrown out.  He survived. The same can’t be said for all his contemporaries. He’s probably been drowning in the survivor’s guilt forever.

I’ve spent my whole life watching child stars fall, crash, fade. I’m not surprised by the current Hollywood shake-up. When it’s not on some heart rending “where are they now” interview, you can see the open secret being broadcast in the movies these criminals make. Don’t believe me? Watch Scream 3.  Weinstein isn’t the only guy from the credits that is being called out for rape and abuse.

What IMDB is too polite to spoil is that Sidney Prescott’s mom was an actress that got raped at a casting party (apparently, she was told to expect it) which caused a pregnancy, that produced a serial killer. From there, said psycho was unleashed on a 3 film killing spree.  This, concluded with the murderer going after of a bunch of actors, that were also exploited for sex so they could get in the very movie that would be their doom. There’s a literary term for what that is, but I just see it as open bragging.

Still not convinced? He and Corey Haim talked openly about it in 2007 and 2008. Then, the ladies of The View (Bawbwa particularly) blew him off.  This is another interview from 2013. How hypocritical, that when a man cries rape, no one gives a shit?

 

If Corey wants to make this film and do what no talkshow host or publisher has been willing to, let’s make it happen. I’m not completely selfless.  I hope that this will help fight trafficking and exploitation too. I figure, we have to cut off demand and  demand isn’t limited to powerful Hollywood types and politicians. This might put a pretty decent dent in it.

One last thing. Watch the video I link to for “bawbwa”. Look at her body language and dismissive gesture when he says “People want me dead. People do not want me here.” I remember her interviewing Anne Heche during a psychotic break. Bawbwa kept a sympathetic and interested face, the whole time the actress talked about how she was a 4th dimensional being. But she couldn’t muster a shoulder pat for a man she’s known since he was 14? If that’s not a clue….

 

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Abolitionist c.2015

“I believe tyranny, slavery, and evil can be fought and defeated by civil men with just means. Do not assume that civility precludes the savage. This is the war for the lives and futures of our children. There is no room for cowardice or delicacy on the front line.”

This is quickly becoming one of my favorite quotes.  It doesn’t hurt that it’s mine, but more than that, it says what so many of us are trying to.  We have spent so much time dismissing semantics that our words no longer have the meaning they ought.  I can no longer be “pro-life” because it is perceived as “anti-woman.”

We are currently at war with factions that label themselves “Islamic” and yet, in the US our leadership is chastised by other leaders and the populace for using the same name.  If you take a peek at news coverage of Westboro Baptist Church, they’re readily identified as far leaning Christians.  As a Catholic, I am sickened by their behavior and consider them nothing more than a tax sheltered hate group, but I don’t bristle at the media reporting that they claim “Christian” beliefs to justify their behavior.  I do take exception to being lumped in with them, as I expect any American Muslim would at being lumped in with Daesh or Hezbollah.

I’m having major language issues inside the Abolitionist movement. So you know, I’m talking about the end of modern day sex and labor slavery. I could give you numbers for days, but for now, trust me, it’s pretty bad.

First of all, we’re battling our own definitions.  The government puts out numbers and estimates, but doesn’t alliterate on what numbers they are or are not counting.  By merit of excluding certain types of crimes against children from their sex trafficking head count, they trim a seven digit number down to “approximately 100,000.” Dirty Joe can pay to sodomize a child, but it won’t make it into the count because sodomy isn’t “sex.” Thanks to well meaning but misguided activists, many states no longer have a sodomy law and haven’t re-written rape laws.  I won’t get into the bad stuff, but suffice to say, there are some loopholes that are being exploited by the government to make the numbers look lower than they really are. *cough* John Kerry sucks *cough*

Another language issue we’re having is within the movement, relates to how folks label themselves. So many factions are zealously guarding their corner of the fight that they refuse help or the advancement of the cause from perceived outsiders.  The other day, it was from reps from a “sextortion” FBI task force that were so adamant that their fight was 1000% unrelated to human or child trafficking that it colored the whole presentation. They railed on and on about it being unrelated. I would argue that the exchange of “sextorted” images for other images or for bitcoins (digital currency) would qualify the crime as commerce and the perpetrator as a trafficker of sexually exploitedf855909d23c086734401ef57ad932bed persons. To further prove that they were not abolitionists, one of these feds insisted that “most” prostitutes (adult and child) were willing. She also defended the notion that lured or coerced children are still “runaways”if they were not removed from home by force. I can’t even…

In another vein, I’ve befriended activists that are fighting to get mandatory minimum sentences enacted for crimes against children.  THAT’S MUSIC TO THIS ABOLITIONIST’S EARS!!!  Why? Because people who pay to rape/molest/sodomize children or who exchange sextorted images, or any other variety pedophile would face major time!!  WHOO HOOO! BRING. IT. ON! Oh, but wait.  They don’t want to be involved in the abolition movement because “child prostitutes are different.”

I’ll let you digest that for a second.  Look at the cat.

Yeah, so these people who should be an abolitionist’s spirit animals and super heroes, don’t want to be lumped in.  I tried to explain the grooming process for recruiters and the “seasoning” process pimps use to turn these kids out and was met with exception and accusation.  One woman actually said what abolitionists are fighting is worse, therefore we need our own set of unrelated laws.  By her own admission, she didn’t think sentencing of “regular pedophiles” would stand up to scrutiny if they were sentenced by the same standard as the ones who pay.  So?  End result was I was told to stay in my lane.

I’m saddened by this, because so many jurisdictions are still arresting and charging the CHILDREN who are being trafficked for prostitution and the pedophile johns for simple solicitation.  I’ll accept “regular pedophile” sentencing for these folks if it means they’ll be held accountable for their deviance.

The final language barrier in abolitionism is the triggering one.  I’ve been turned way and cancelled from lectures and appearances time and again because various leaders recoil at the potential for complaint.  One entity was brave enough to ask me to remove a handful of terms and topics from my “Intro to trafficking” presentation.  What words?  I’m glad you asked.

“PENETRATION” “RAPE” “SURVIVAL SEX” “PIMP” 

That’s not all of them, but those are the whammies.  I’ve also been turned away because my call to action for persons to get involved has been construed as criticism of police.  I’m baffled by this, but the bottom line is this: the powers that be are so scare of a complain in the comment box that they’d rather fight positive change than take down the box.

I’ve been removed from, and muzzled by, organizations because they fear the language and the potential for conflict more than they desire to affect change.  Look at the abolitionists of the past and tell me they weren’t willing to risk death or imprisonment to save lives. That’s to say nothing of being unpopular or “triggering”.

I cannot think of an instance where I spoke to a group and didn’t see disgust, rage, tears, or sickness.  If I didn’t see that when discussing the enslavement and sexual torture of children, I’d probably start making serious plans for the apocalypse.