Complicated Dolls Are Complicated

And possibly aliens

I just caught wind of the first “transgender” doll. At a glance, it’s a lovely dark haired girl with flowing locks, penetrating eyes, and no indication of her inner turmoil at her cosmically mistaken genitalia. Though, she does look a little sad.

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I read further to learn that she is actually a he and designed after a youtube personality named Jazz Jenkins. Jazz is a boy who identifies as a “normal girl.”  The doll itself is anatomically neutral, in the way all dolls are, but is female.

I am a little confused by this. My inner cynic thinks this is a marketing ploy by a struggling collector doll company (Tonner Toys) to gain relevance amid a world of Barbies and American Girl Dolls.

For the sake of argument, let’s assume it’s not a stunt. At one point dolls were, foremost, intended to allow young children to model the behaviors of parents and enact role play scenarios.  The doll only manifested the emotions, personality, history, and behaviors the child imparted.  This, in turn, aided them to cope with real life and live out fantasy after fantasy. Barbies had set names, but fifty years of sales had taught Mattel not to pigeon hole the kids, so the kids could pick the careers and lives their dolls lived.

My dolls all had marker tattoos, were routinely in the hospital, wrestled bears, and dressed like Tank Girl. I got to pick their names, usually made their clothes or ruined the ones that came with them, and loved immersing myself into this alternate world.  If you cannot tell, I was a bit odd and a tom-boy as a child.  From age 4 til now, I’ve always felt more comfortable rooting around in dirt with animals and doing stuff a little different, than sitting prim and sipping tea.

I bring this up because today’s kids don’t get quite the same thing.  We give kids dolls with an entire legend.  Books, movies, shows, and more tell us the doll’s name, history, and even their favorite things. The only decision left to the child to decide is what outfit to put on her. They can even get one to match! The idea was that the doll would teach history and some back handed morality.  I’ve seen some of these crunchy granola moms fawn over the things. “She’s a WWII survivor…”  or “She’s an immigrant…”

No.  No she’s not.  She’s a doll.

It’s not just girls’ imaginations being squashed either.  When was the last time you bought a generic set of legos?  Yeah, they have them on the top shelf behind the Duplos. But, now, the thing to get ae sets, that match the shows, that match the movies, that match the games… It’s a thing.

Anyway, we’ve reached a time in our collective history where letting a child be who they want, appears to be the top priority in the country. (My parents managed back in the olden days when there were two sexes and smoking was cool.) Yet, we typecast our kids with these cookie cutter toys that thwart imagination; and we call it “education and values.”

Insert trans-doll.  Firstly, to be “trans” one must be of one sex and long/feel/identify as another.  Whether you think there are 2, 3, 38, or 62 genders is not really at play.  This statement applies to everyone.  This doll is female.  It may be crafted after a boy who identifies as a girl, but the doll is female.  The thing that would make the doll “trans” beyond adding anatomy or it being sentient enough to “feel” like a girl, is writing out the doll’s history, likes, etc.  So, that brings us back to hijacking imagination.

I am not an expert on toy therapy or kids, but it seems that handing a child [that is struggling with identity and emotions] a trans-labeled doll and saying, “this is what your are,” is super unhealthy and problematic.  More so, if you actually believe there are 62 variants of gender?  I would have thought that the more apt doll for these kids would be a generic blank slate, label free, and choice of clothings etc.  Then, let the kid pick, name, and create a story themselves.  Isn’t that what these parents are trying to accomplish?

OR… maybe I’m just really cynical of anything that appeases rabid liberals. The more pink-hats that support it, the more likely I am to think they’re being tricked.  Next month, they’ll have hijab wearing dolls that come with their own flogging stick and Noble Quran. Yay freedom.

If you would like to learn more about the research into desistance and persistence of gender dysphoria, this is the most balanced article I’ve seen, with very honest critiques of the research and outcomes.  I know I promised aliens… just use your imagination.

Useful Idiots

I am not really a name caller…. maybe I am. I dunno. Anyhow, this term popped in my head and I couldn’t help but feel like, “this needs attention!”

Who are useful idiots today? If you’re a Democrat, it’s a whirlwind tour of campuses. A few bits on MTV, mumble about student loans and bodily autonomy and you’re in like Flint… or not Flint, is that offensive now? If you’re a Republican, you can shake your saber, say “God” a lot, and seal the deal with some borderline illegal threats towards other countries.

If you hate America and want to see it succumb to civil war, you can count on the undereducated and victimhood class to rally to your cause. Blindly and well intentioned, of course. No one here actually wants that. They’re idiots, not monsters.

I find that the more I read/see, the more convinced I am, than ever before, that both major parties and their various socialist, libertarian, green, and independent offshoots are all in cahoots.  As long as we spend all day and night worrying about eachother, we won’t notice that we’re pawns in a long running scam controlled by a multi-billion dollar lobbying industry, impossibly large phamatech, and a trillion dollar media industry.

Yeah, I sound like an Info Wars reject.  You should hear my speil on how Jade Helm was the ground work for a shadow government seeking to enslave half of us and kill the other half…. Another time. If we persist in being these useful idiots, by clicking, sharing, bitching, and boycotting, they will keep getting rich while our children are sold to slavers, our cancers treated with poison, and our futures mortgaged to the hilt.

I propose one alternative: insist on solution based discussion and action. Break free from the herd.

I’m Boycotting Your Strike

And so should you.

The news is afire with sad tales of immigrants who followed the lead and urging of no one in particular, on social media, that declared “A Day Without Immigrants will demonstrate the impact of deportation and zealous immigration bans.” The fact that it was on a Thursday, before a 3 day weekend would have been enough to keep me disinterested. Who doesn’t angle for the 4 day weekend? Amateurs!

Seriously though, I was dubious that any self respecting business owner would forgo a day of income or risk the wrath of partisan politics. I was even more doubtful that an immigrant (in today’s climate of fear and xenophobia) would risk their job by skipping work. Nevermind actually screwing over employers by no-showing, effectively leaving them shorthanded and potentially losing income.  Nothing says, “appreciate me,” quite like letting the boss know that you’re so easily tricked.

My national day off is March 8.  I say that jokingly.  I’ve heard tale of intercepted emails (sent via company email accounts) from employees trying to rally as many bodies, to strike as possible. “The more that don’t show up the better, they cannot fire us all.”  I cannot even begin to comprehend who would hear that and think, “dude, totally getting in on that!”

Don’t make excuses here. These women are being encouraged to disrupt businesses, give up income, and endanger their livelyhoods, by a woman who advocates Sharia law and prefers the company of rapist murderers over pro-life women. The very law she promotes also says women should not work in fields that would damage their husbands… this includes interacting with men, driving cars, or doing men’s work.

I’m gonna take a minute, let that sink in.  If you want a bunch of women (whom you think are infidels) to forgo employment or just suffer, what better way than to trick them into getting fired?  Kinda like how she tricked a bunch of infidels into defiling their own flag, committing to Sharia by donning khimar (vaguely: hijab).  In Islam, those women are going to hell. Just like the ones lining up for abortions. Convert or burn.

Okay, so that’s what I think. Here’s the rest. I do believe there are areas where women are getting shorted.  I also recognize and appreciate the contributions of our immigrant neighbors.  But, if we’re going to hold these entities to the fire, there’s not much incentive for them to WANT to do better. It’s a good way to get half measures and punitive raises.

I propose a different tact. Wanna convince a bunch of people that their immigrant neighbors are integral and totally not mooches, why not invite everyone to visit their businesses?  Why not reward companies that hire immigrants?  Why not build up our neighborhoods with community outreach?  I’m sure the immigrants would appreciate the income boom and fresh customers.

Want to close that income gap? I’m pretty sure taking off more time than men won’t win anyone over. I have no clue how closing my business will convince people I deserve more money?  I think a better approach is to nominate business owners for a Forbes style list for best pay, best leave policies, etc.  Again, invite people to visit those local, women owned, businesses. Reward the people we’re trying to help.

I’ll be honest here. The 8th was supposed to be my day off. I rarely plan those, but I’m gonna forgo it and cover any cases that need it. I’m pretty sure that if my boss figures out that being contrary to radical feminists would mean I’m working more, he’d invest heavily in pussy hats and hijabs. So, shhhh.

Never Underestimate the Stupid in Powerful People

In Large Groups… Or something like that….

I’m going to take a few minutes away from my usual trafficking and irreverence to talk politics. Sorry, not sorry. One need only turn on the TV for affirmation that our society has lost its collective minds. The idea that our culture is under attack is not a stretch. But from whom?

In the 1950s, social scientist Solomon Asch, formulated an experiment to study the effects of peer pressure in large groups. The result was that, when faced with being the lone voice of dissent, most subjects adheared to patently wrong answers of peers. Asch tried varying versions to find that lynchpin scenario that kept people from going along with the crowd, but never found it. (Hence the failure of programs like DARE.) People were more likely to dissent if there was someone else doing it first, but those scenarios required substantial conditioning.

Twenty some odd years later, another social scientist [Stanley Milgram] wanted to test the boundaries of authority on normal people. How far would they go and how readily would they dish out inhumane treatment if assured it’s not their responsibility?  Milgram discovered that the color of authority, from his prestigious school and title had more to do with the maleability of normal people than the actual effects or consequences of the acts.  I strongly suspect this phenomenon informed the social justice campaigns of the era.

Imagine the impact of both phenomenon.  These authorities divest their audience of responsibility, introduce, then reinforce the counterintuitive ideaologies. Most people will go along with it while simultaneously assuming the others are conforming out of agreement. Dissent is actually quashed and negative feedback becomes a form of electroshock [that was only simulated in the experiments]. Students are then encouraged to become the enforcers.

In Asch’s experiments, he discovered that half of the subjects that conformed, did so, knowing they were wrong. The other half of conformists truly believed and defended their acquiescence to the group, in spite of evidence to the contrary. The people who consistently and fervently dissented were easily quieted from argument by labeling them deviant and subjugating their stance.

As I hinted earlier, these two studies gave birth to a host of similar studies and experiments that found that children are even easier to trick into trusting authority or conforming. Ever wondered why they stand in line for everything, are assigned seats, and are required to provide similar school supplies? Group compliance makes the dissenting children “deviants.”

So, fast forward to today. Nonconfomism is the in thing… as long as you also comply with the authority. We’ve spent years adhering and trusting authority. We view people in suits as more trustworthy or knowledgeable. Doctors are infallible. We presume college degrees are synonymous with knowledge. What was once argued as a fallacy of debate (call to authority) is now the basis of debate and defense against logical dissent. In fact, we’re so mired in the fight for conformity and compliance with our authority, that the topic of the discussion is of little real consequence.

The recent election is a prime example. Love or hate the outcome, no one has held the media accountable for prognosticating a Clinton victory. Nor have they been held accountable for any of their missteps. Michael Crichton called it years ago, when he went after the media for letting go of journalistic values, in favor of profit and sensationalism.  They get away with it, in large part, because they are viewed as authority and we’re programmed to avoid dissent. We might lash out at one side or another but the media is the greased pig in every debacle.

There are easily another dozen social scientists and psychologies we could draw from, to explain today’s climate, but I chose these two for good reason.  They support my opinion. See how that works? I also chose them, because they’re the basis for my following suggestions on how to combat rabid extremism in the left and right. If you think your side doesn’t have it, please reread the part where half of Asch’s subject didn’t think they were wrong.

1) Do not debate a group.  If you’re on social media, tell the person you’ll gladly have that duscussion via private chat.  If you’re at a party or family dinner, politely offer to take the person to coffee and discuss it one on one. If they ask why not now? Simply reply, “You don’t have to, we can go burn one outside if you like.”  The whole point of discussion is to communicate ideas. Removing the pressure of performance and embarrassment allows for more honest discourse.

2) Establish common ground to start. If your argument is religious in nature and your conversation mate is atheist,  obviously quoting the bible won’t work. When non-Catholics ask me why something is the way it is, I start with, “I can explain it, but we’d have to start with mutual agreement in the teachings of the Magisterium of the Catholic Church. ” That’s a show stopper. Have a reason based discussion planned or do not engage.

3) Fact check your sources. If you don’t read the studies I supplied, I’m talking to you.  Just because something seems reasonable and fits your narrative or worldview, doesn’t make it valid or true. I’ve seen some really compelling arguments for the Earth being flat, alien visitations, and shadow governments being operated by lizard people. These appeal to me, because the idea of humans being so evil makes me sad. I wish there were lizard people behind all this…. I bet you’re thinking it’s time to check my sources.

4) Stick to I statements and avoid detraction.  “John Smith is a racist.” Unless you’ve seen John Smith participating in a lynching or him saying, “Hi, I’m a racist.” Chances are, it’s detraction. Instead, say, “I have concerns about John Smith’s policies towards minorities based on….” Then provide source material. The media is not a source.

5) Guilt by asociation is real, but there are qualifiers first. Association is not synonymous with endorsement. Using the example above. Let’s say John Smith has been convicted of a hate crime against a minority. He sports all the tatoos and has a youtube channel exhorting the wonders of bigotry.  If he thinks my work is meaningful and he wants to help, that’s association. If I say, thanks but your support will hurt my mission and alienate key members of the community that I need. That’s a weak refusal, and may give the impression that I would welcome Mr. Smith’s support if it weren’t for those people. So, guilt by association would apply. If I say, “I’m  glad you agree that child exploitation of any race is a travesty and great evil, but I disagree with your ideaologies, and even feel they are part of the problem. I do not want them associated with my cause.”  That’s strong enough to say I don’t qualify for guilt by association.  There’s a big “but” here. I would be stupid not to continue the dialogue with that person, and try to bring him back from evil. That’s evangelization, not association. Just like a Christian talking to atheists, the discussion doesn’t diminish their beliefs.

6) Learn the meanings of the words you’re using. Muslim is not a race. It’s a religion. African American is an ethnicity, not a race. White is a race, not a nationality. Mexican is a nationality, not a language. Spanish is a language, not a culture.  Culture is where it gets tricky. Culture is influenced by all of these and geography, though it’s not limited by it. Texan is all of these, because we’re superior.  You can fact check that, it’s never been debunked. While we’re at it, theories are not facts. Medicine is not science. And politician is not a profession.

7) Don’t assume you know what the other person is going to say. Query your friend and find out the basis of their viewpoint. “Just so I know what we’re talking about, what do you believe?”  They’ll usually cover why, but if they don’t say, ask. Control your reaction and resist the urge to jump into debate.  Restate their opinion back, and make note of the bullet points. Do not resort to “you people” generalities. This is your friend, not “one of them.”
8) Remember that study? Half are believers, half are followers.  If they are a follower, you may find that their ideas are influenced by trauma, misinformation, or even misunderstanding. Their opinion will seem like spite, not reason. Attacking that, will lose the person and reinforce their position. If they are  believer, they will resort to ad hoc arguments and generalizations either regurgitating unverified reports or prognosticating unknowable “facts.”  For instance, “if we continue to do x, y, and z, the effects on the economy will be negative.” That’s prognostication and unknowable.

9) Know your subject matter and do not be afraid to say, “I don’t know the answer to that, but I’d like to explore that with you.”  If you don’t know your topic and engage in this exchange, without a willingness to be humble and honest about your knowledge-base, you will affirm the misinformation being spread.

10) Do not use weaponized empathy, emotionalism, lies, or stunts to make your case. If your perspective is reason based and supported by documented fact, there is no reason to resort to that.  If the other person does it, ask, “Do you have any facts or just your feelings?”

11) Agree to disagree is a good outcome. If the only thing the two of you accomplish is stating your perspectives, feeling out weaknesses in the other’s stance, and saying, “this has been interesting, I’d like to talk about it again, when we’ve both had time to think about what the other said.”  This demonstrates that neither side is the devil and civility is possible.

12) “They” want you to fail.  I usually discourage resorting to anonymous “they” but in this instance, it is vital to understand that there are truly people out there with a vested interest in watching us spiral into chaos and hatred. Who “they” are is another topic of debate, but regardless of whom you or I think it is, everyone can fight it, by following the above guidelines.

So, as I said, the two studies I supplied are barely scratching the surface. My hope is just to get you thinking about how the other side got to that point. I have been calling it “progressive cannibalism,” but I suspect the truth is more insidious.  Here’s links on how to have a good discussion, fight with a loved one, and types of logic fallacies that impede meaningful conversations.

Numbers Number and Numbers

“How many people have you saved?”  That’s a question folks in the various abolition camps are asked regularly.  We’re painted into this numbers corner, where we’re expected to produce data without complete input. Then we need to compare our own experience, so the asker can assess our efficacy prior to deciding our value.

I bet you didn’t know a simple question like that could cause such rancor.

That’s the thing. We really don’t know how many slaves are out there, how many abortions are performed, or how many drug users are active.  I’ve dabbled in fact-checking government and NGO projections and the story is the same. “If we knew exactly how many, then we could attack it directly, but we don’t so we’ll just focus on these components and hope for the best.” Obviously, I’m paraphrasing.

Think I’m jaded?  The government says around 100,000 children enter into trafficking every year. That’s straight forward, sex (rape) for profit. But they don’t really include all sexual contact or all forms of commerce.  Some private organizations have done the math and say it’s probably more than a million children each year.  I sat down and applied widely accepted pedophile/survivor statistics to our population, overlaid them with perpetrator and trafficking menus and got 4.6 million.

I’m very guilty of number judging, even in my own community.  Look at the Amber Alert system, when utilized it is very effective. Two thousand kids go missing a day, but Amber Alerts are only utilized for a few dozen kids a year. They even boast about how many successful locates they have.  Personally, I don’t know if I see a difference between a man grabbing a child off the street and that man private messaging that same child to come to him, or he’ll kill her family.  In my mind, celebrating a couple hundred found children in the face of hundreds of thousands of missing ones is lame.

I imagine that’s why the government is low-balling.  Truly tackling child sex trafficking would mean attacking the demand. Let’s face, there isn’t a profile for these buyers that won’t step on toes all the way to the top of America’s class/cast system.  More than that, we’re combating a special kind of stupid.  Can you believe there are people that insist that sex predators can be cured… and that by extension life sentences for crimes against children are inhumane? I can commit premeditated murder once with zero proclivity towards repeating it, and spend forever in jail to appease my dead victim’s relations. But throwing away the key for someone whose victim is still alive is a civil rights violation?

Want to really screw with someone?  Researches have suggested that as much as 5% (nearly 16M) Americans molest children (pedophiles)… That does not include the low/no contact pornographers or adults who prefer victims between 14 and 17.  About a third of hands-on pedophiles report having multiple victims, to the tune of 260 children in their lifetime.  If you do the math… that’s more than a billion per generation. So, how is everyone not being raped through childhood? That’s where trafficking swoops in. Or maybe not?  There’s no easy translation between medical, legal, and practical definition and therefore almost no studies pertaining to child trafficking, molestation, pedophilia, and recidivism. As a matter of fact…. You know what years of research has told us?  That pedophilia causes child molestation. Do you know what the research says about the cause of paying to rape teenagers? Yeah, me neither.

So, where were we?  How many kids have I saved?  Do I get to count the ones rescued by my protégé’s?  How about ones that are saved because of my activism?  Can I roll in the ones that I merely helped with research?  That’s easy.  Not enough.  I don’t count heads, because, with millions of kids out there, my number will never ever be adequate or impressive.  I’ll leave that to the organizations and bean counters.  I’m just here to do what I do ‘til the number is zero.

 

http://yellodyno.com/Statistics/statistics_child_molester.html

http://www.childmolestationprevention.org/pdfs/study.pdf

http://www.mayoclinicproceedings.org/article/S0025-6196(11)61074-4/pdf

Abolitionist c.2015

“I believe tyranny, slavery, and evil can be fought and defeated by civil men with just means. Do not assume that civility precludes the savage. This is the war for the lives and futures of our children. There is no room for cowardice or delicacy on the front line.”

This is quickly becoming one of my favorite quotes.  It doesn’t hurt that it’s mine, but more than that, it says what so many of us are trying to.  We have spent so much time dismissing semantics that our words no longer have the meaning they ought.  I can no longer be “pro-life” because it is perceived as “anti-woman.”

We are currently at war with factions that label themselves “Islamic” and yet, in the US our leadership is chastised by other leaders and the populace for using the same name.  If you take a peek at news coverage of Westboro Baptist Church, they’re readily identified as far leaning Christians.  As a Catholic, I am sickened by their behavior and consider them nothing more than a tax sheltered hate group, but I don’t bristle at the media reporting that they claim “Christian” beliefs to justify their behavior.  I do take exception to being lumped in with them, as I expect any American Muslim would at being lumped in with Daesh or Hezbollah.

I’m having major language issues inside the Abolitionist movement. So you know, I’m talking about the end of modern day sex and labor slavery. I could give you numbers for days, but for now, trust me, it’s pretty bad.

First of all, we’re battling our own definitions.  The government puts out numbers and estimates, but doesn’t alliterate on what numbers they are or are not counting.  By merit of excluding certain types of crimes against children from their sex trafficking head count, they trim a seven digit number down to “approximately 100,000.” Dirty Joe can pay to sodomize a child, but it won’t make it into the count because sodomy isn’t “sex.” Thanks to well meaning but misguided activists, many states no longer have a sodomy law and haven’t re-written rape laws.  I won’t get into the bad stuff, but suffice to say, there are some loopholes that are being exploited by the government to make the numbers look lower than they really are. *cough* John Kerry sucks *cough*

Another language issue we’re having is within the movement, relates to how folks label themselves. So many factions are zealously guarding their corner of the fight that they refuse help or the advancement of the cause from perceived outsiders.  The other day, it was from reps from a “sextortion” FBI task force that were so adamant that their fight was 1000% unrelated to human or child trafficking that it colored the whole presentation. They railed on and on about it being unrelated. I would argue that the exchange of “sextorted” images for other images or for bitcoins (digital currency) would qualify the crime as commerce and the perpetrator as a trafficker of sexually exploitedf855909d23c086734401ef57ad932bed persons. To further prove that they were not abolitionists, one of these feds insisted that “most” prostitutes (adult and child) were willing. She also defended the notion that lured or coerced children are still “runaways”if they were not removed from home by force. I can’t even…

In another vein, I’ve befriended activists that are fighting to get mandatory minimum sentences enacted for crimes against children.  THAT’S MUSIC TO THIS ABOLITIONIST’S EARS!!!  Why? Because people who pay to rape/molest/sodomize children or who exchange sextorted images, or any other variety pedophile would face major time!!  WHOO HOOO! BRING. IT. ON! Oh, but wait.  They don’t want to be involved in the abolition movement because “child prostitutes are different.”

I’ll let you digest that for a second.  Look at the cat.

Yeah, so these people who should be an abolitionist’s spirit animals and super heroes, don’t want to be lumped in.  I tried to explain the grooming process for recruiters and the “seasoning” process pimps use to turn these kids out and was met with exception and accusation.  One woman actually said what abolitionists are fighting is worse, therefore we need our own set of unrelated laws.  By her own admission, she didn’t think sentencing of “regular pedophiles” would stand up to scrutiny if they were sentenced by the same standard as the ones who pay.  So?  End result was I was told to stay in my lane.

I’m saddened by this, because so many jurisdictions are still arresting and charging the CHILDREN who are being trafficked for prostitution and the pedophile johns for simple solicitation.  I’ll accept “regular pedophile” sentencing for these folks if it means they’ll be held accountable for their deviance.

The final language barrier in abolitionism is the triggering one.  I’ve been turned way and cancelled from lectures and appearances time and again because various leaders recoil at the potential for complaint.  One entity was brave enough to ask me to remove a handful of terms and topics from my “Intro to trafficking” presentation.  What words?  I’m glad you asked.

“PENETRATION” “RAPE” “SURVIVAL SEX” “PIMP” 

That’s not all of them, but those are the whammies.  I’ve also been turned away because my call to action for persons to get involved has been construed as criticism of police.  I’m baffled by this, but the bottom line is this: the powers that be are so scare of a complain in the comment box that they’d rather fight positive change than take down the box.

I’ve been removed from, and muzzled by, organizations because they fear the language and the potential for conflict more than they desire to affect change.  Look at the abolitionists of the past and tell me they weren’t willing to risk death or imprisonment to save lives. That’s to say nothing of being unpopular or “triggering”.

I cannot think of an instance where I spoke to a group and didn’t see disgust, rage, tears, or sickness.  If I didn’t see that when discussing the enslavement and sexual torture of children, I’d probably start making serious plans for the apocalypse.

 

 

Stick that on your bumper!… or something?

Christian-Bumpersticker

I wrote the end of this before the beginning.  I knew what the message was, but how to demonstrate it plagued me.  Yesterday, I saw a beat up old car, with bad paint and bumper stickers concealing bumper stickers.  They were offensive and made me question why anyone would subject themselves to that kind of scrutiny.  That’s when it hit me!  This is something I can use.  While I know, better than most, the why and where to fore of most human behaviors, I do not have any way of knowing any man’s deepest motives.  Proverbs 21:2 sums it up nicely.  Basically it says that some people may feel they are in the right, but it is God that can see into their hearts.

When someone has a major fault they tend to conceal it with another behavior, their own kind of bumper sticker, if you will.  How funny, offensive, or bizarre it is, is inconsequential.  It is up to each of us as individuals to steal ourselves against the messages or the offense and view the person as a whole, as we would the car.  Their sentiment, in big block letters and silly pictures, conceals damage and neglect.  If it was a poor cold child, we’d rush to gather him to our arms and shield them from the elements. Isn’t that our call to sanctity?  Why then turn away or react with sin when faced with a less sympathetic person than a neglected child?  Aren’t we all God’s children?

hate stickers

I can think of few people that bother me more than self righteous hypocrites that nod their heads with zeal on Sunday and conduct themselves as though their attendance is a cloak of invincibility the rest of the week.  Their bumper stickers are subtle but cutting condemnations.  They hide damage of loneliness and bitter fear. The worst part is they have no idea.  They point out the sins of others gleefully and don’t see the sin of their own actions, even when pointed out.  The impunity they operate with is astounding.  And for years, little could upset me as readily and as deeply as the unprovoked injury they caused me or my friends.

I had spent a long time letting go of anger with family and people who’d injured me physically.  Forgiveness was never something I denied another, even if they never asked for it.  After all, one can forgive and not be obliged to ever see that person again.  What could it hurt if I’m okay after?  Forgiving ongoing insult and injury was a different animal though.  I called it righteous anger.

Hillary cats

About half the New Testament counsels us to let go of anger, give ourselves up to God, turn the other cheek, avoid idle & profane talk, do not involve yourself in the conflict of others, speak not of those who have not injured you, love your enemy,  I really could go on.  It seems simple enough, I certainly thought so.  I figured that if I avoided confrontation, blocked trouble makers online, and stuck to a core group of friends, I was doing well and stopping the occasions for sin.  Imagine my surprise when I found a little gem about the graveness of succumbing to the temptation of pointless anger and idle conflict.

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I was reading an in depth slash doctrinal examination of conscience.   I got to number five, Thou Shall Not Kill.  I typically chuckle, say “not yet” and move to the next.  However the questions on this one pegged me.  “Allowed anger to turn into resentful brooding.”  Check!  “Shown aversion or contempt toward others.” Check, check.  “Ridiculed or insulted others” Check… Turns out, allowing my anger to seep out in humorous ways, at the expense of others, even in jest, I was violating the fifth commandment! These actions are poison to our soul.  Self harm, even the slow kind is a violation of the commandment. I was shocked but dubious.

Weeks later, I was reading more of these examinations as they were prescribed through the Magisterium of the Church.  That’s when the big kick in the teeth came.  It said that my placing my anger inside and maintaining these rivalries for bitterness’ sake, I was failing to trust in God’s plan.  I was forsaking Him!  I was breaking the first commandment, just by allowing my fear and uncertainty of the motives of others win out.  Had I been told this, I never would have believed it, but there before me was the biggest gouge in my soul’s shiny paint.

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I chose to make changes and almost immediately, I was rewarded with a big attagirl from God.  I quit using my sense of humor to hide contempt and, while I had always prayed for those that injured me with their words and conniving, I changed my tact.  I stopped praying that they change and instead thanked God for the chance to grow, and ask that He grants them that opportunity when they needed it most.

Don’t assume this is all piety. There’s plenty of self interest, but this feeling I have has led me to new wisdom that I share freely.  I still avoid the conflict, but now I do it joyfully and for the sake of their souls and my own.  I no more wish to be the occasion for their sin than I wish them to be mine. I now feel the guiding hand of the Holy Spirit in my day to day life and I no longer begrudge the bumper stickers of the hypocrites, because they are just as much part of God’s plan as I am.  Some day, I might share my Turtle Wax and help them the way they helped me.

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In the meantime, I counsel others that endure what I have, to take a step back, read all the stickers then remember that this ratty car of a person is still a child of God.  Isn’t that what we say during the Our Father?  “…forgive my trespasses as I forgive those who trespass against me… lead me not into temptation…” That prayer has deeper meaning now.  Or maybe I understand it more, and it was always deep.

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