Transplants or Harvests?

Most people go their whole lives never enduring MRI, fMRI, or EEGs. To most people, these tests are the gospel.  They are cutting edge science that enable fictional autistic or drug addled doctors to make the last minute, and life saving, discovery that saves the day. Anything that accurate, must also be trusted when it says there is no hope… right?

Unlike most people, I’ve had those and many many others. I’ve done the research into their efficacy and accuracy. I’ve also read the release of liability before consenting to these. They state pretty clearly that the practice of medicine is an art, there are no guarantees, and that the technology is only an indicator, not a finite diagnostic. More often than not, these tests were not reliable. When it was life or death, the tests didn’t tell the story at all.  I’m alive in spite of the technology and tests that would have me die. Thankfully, I was blessed  with an amazing doctor that knew better.

In the wrong hands, this technology is being used to end lives, stop treatments, and misdiagnose. Bad doctoring kills over 250,000 people in the US, every year. That’s not including the patients they kill on purpose. The medical industry is one of the fastest growing mortalies we have. Anyone wondering why we don’t have “Doctor Control” rallies?

Bad doctoring kills over 250,000 people in the US, every year.

And…. this is why I’m having the organ donation symbol removed from all my ID. Instead, my family has instructions to donate ONLY after natural death. Time and again, doctors push to do harvests from “brain dead” patients that are not dead, or comatose or vegetative patients they insist will never recover. If you learn the history of “brain dead” and its use in the US and other Western countries, you’d see my hesitation at trusting these tests to declare me dead, when they are barely effective on animated patients that can answer their questions and comply with instructions.

Time and again, families are told that all hope is lost and forced to watch loved ones die of dehydration/suffocation, or get wheeled out to be harvested like a corn crop. When you think about it, harvesting from supposedly irredeemable patients is not too dissimilar from the live harvests that got China in so much trouble a few years ago. Granted, they are collecting political prisoners and executing them on an as-needed basis. They are the villains of every sci-fi organ donation movie ever. With a constant need in the US, the pressure on US doctors to get those donations is pretty intense. Perhaps, too intense.

To be fair, there will always be detractors that insist that no one that is “legally brain dead” has ever recovered. They quibble over terminology and evoke names like Schiavo and Quinlan, to differentiate between persistent vegetative states, brain death, and comas.  If you click the links above, I would argue that the language in the media is not nearly as important as this one thing:

Doctors are obtaining permission or court orders to harvest organs from patients that can still recover.

They are advising families to end lives, before those lives are over. Whether these live harvests and starvation deaths are the result of more malpractice, or are a result of doctors playing God, I don’t know. I just know that I trust my family and God, more than them.

 

 

 

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Racial Apathy or Voyeurism?

I’ve been looking for missing people for a couple years now. I’m going to let you in on a little secret. When it comes to missing persons, young women especially, race matters. I would dearly love to one day finish my degree so I can tell you with certainty why that is, but for now, I only have a couple guesses.

Before I ever actually investigated a case, my interest was piqued by the disappearance of Natalie Holloway. As tragic as it was, I was astounded and equally confounded by the outpouring of interest and emotional response. It was as though this was the first 18 year old from the US ever went missing. Natalie has never been found.

When compared to the disappearance of Rebeca Jose, barely a month prior, the difference in support and outrage is easily quantifiable. I doubt anyone beyond a couple NCMEC junkies and her family could tell you anything about this 17 year old Latina.

The obvious answer is to suggest that predominantly white media and its viewers are racist. When I have a missing black kid, I get pretty close to that conclusion too. What other explanation is there for a white 15 yo’s poster getting 17,000 views in one day, compared to barely a 1000 for a black one? Social scientists have termed this “Missing white woman syndrome.” Conversely, when a black or hispanic kid/adult goes missing, I’ve found myself referring to the underwhelming response as, “Missing brown girl apathy.” But, I think I’m wrong.

When you compare the high profile missing cases, yes, race of the victim plays a roll, but I don’t think it’s sympathy driving the interest. I think it’s voyeurism, a little sadism, and self interest. People like drama. They love to see suffering. And who suffers the most, but someone who hasn’t had to starve, endure stressful police encounters, or choose between an education or a minimum wage job?

Like, I said. I may be completely off base. Considering all my unsolved or unresolved cases involve minority and impoverished females, I have trouble doubting my own opinion. Of the fifty to sixty missing person cases I’ve worked or consulted on, I know for absolute certain that the hardest ones have been minorities.

Take from that, what you will, but I do hope you’ll think about that next time you tune in to Nancy Grace and she parades another blond haired blue eyed victim across your screen. For every one of them, there are hundreds of brown ones still waiting for justice. The media is exploitative and feeds us suffering.

H is for How Things Don’t Change

I’ve been doing abolition work for a couple years now. It feels like herding cats most days. I still run into cops and civilians that think children can consent to being prostitutes… and want to arrest them! I still have to tell other abolitionists to stop saying “runaway”. I still get shocked deer in the headlight looks when I correct stereotypes. I still have to fight with people that would legalize prostitution and lower consent ages.

I would love to say it’s less often, but it’s not. It would seem, that as technology has grown so fast, that ignorance and self interest have overtaken any sense of social responsibility most people have. Here is a top example:

If you talk to anyone in the “rescuing trafficking victims” racket, backpage is one of the easiest places to procure a child for sale. Now, I have mixed feelings on this shutdown, but not cause I think being sold like chattle is an inalienable human right. Frankly, it won’t attack demand or even slow down traffickers. Now, I’ll have to work ten times harder and probably have to do something unethical to ensure I can still rescue kids. I do mean kids.

The average age of prostitutes in the US is 16…. AVERAGE AGE.

Here’s one of my posts from last year, upon learning that several of the abolitionist and prolife groups I support, and work with, had been disinvited from attending the march.

Let me end with this. Even if you (wrongly) support legalization of prostitution, wouldn’t you still be opposed to enslaving men, women, and children? Can’t those two sentiments occupy the same headspace?

G is for Gullibility

I admit, occasionally, I will paruse comment sections on memes or news articles. I’ve finally learned not to actually comment on them, but I do marvel at the collective absence of fact or critical thinking that fills comment after comment.

“I feel very strongly that…. (insert technically inaccurate statement) is (insert subjective judgement).”

That’s probably the most common one I see. It’s closely followed by a handful of other emotion based, and thoroughly subjective type of statements. Normally, I regard these as “weaponized emotions” because, if anyone fails to validate the statement, this hurts feelings… not the actual topic.

Anyhow, I am beginning to wonder if these people are not just poor debaters, but actually victims of some kind of plot. Like, did they get tricked into this? Are their arguments and beliefs a kind of magic bean that they have been told will transform their lives?

If that is the case, it’s almost more disturbing because Jack wasn’t just gullible, he was kind of a murdering thief. Upon discoving someone different from him, he decided the person was a monster and therefore it was okay to rob and murder him. I never could figure out why that was a happy ending.

But… it does make me think.

F is for Figuroutable

I have this framed in my bedroom next to a quote by Henry Ford. “Whether you think you can, or think you can’t, you’re right.”

These are not the most common motivational quotes, or even the best. That doesn’t stop them from being right, though. In a world of collective helplessness and victimhood, I find solace in these reminders. It gives me hope that I am not alone in a sea of futility. There are other people that see the same problems I do, and are working on them too.

One quote I neglected to frame is from my son’s favorite childhood movie, Robots. If you haven’t seen it, I suggest you do that… now. Big Weld is the proverbial “wizard” in the lead character’s quest to save robotkind. Mr. Weld built an empire of invention and charity with a single philosophy. “See a need, fill a need.”

Perhaps, today, we can all go find a problem or a need and choose to be part of the solution?

E is for Exploitative Reporting of Exploitation

I just saw an advocacy organization sharing a news article about two women who got roofied by some other women at a bar. The article’s claim was that the victims think they were targeted by sex traffickers. Let me be clear: I am not victim blaming or doubting. I am willing to believe that this incident happened. My commentary is about their perception of their attacker’s intent as well as the focus of the media/public.

I’ll put the link to the original article below, but the jist is, three young women went to a bar and were provided drinks by a couple other young ladies. One of the three was the designated driver. She did not imbibe; and after twenty minutes or so, saw her friends behaving overly drunk and impaired, so she intervened. Police are investigating.

The news reports that the young women think they were being targeted by sex traffickers. I actually think they are right, but not in the way they think. The fact of the matter is, kidnapping is not in the MO of traditional traffickers. Drugging and removing two or three women from a social setting [to sell on the sex circuit] would attract attention. Once they’re recovered, it would create outcry. That is in direct conflict with the current status quo of grooming vulnerable men, women, and children into burning necessary bridges, creating the proper circumstance, then leaving of their own accord. When these people are recovered, the media rarely gives the whole story. Public perception is either that everything is hunky dory or that these troubled individuals made bad decisions and need help. Very little attention is paid to how or why.

I feel strongly that this particular report is going to do more harm than good. The public is ignorant to what trafficking really is, how prolific, and really, the nature of the crimes done. It’s irresponsible to discuss this incident without the context of what typical trafficking looks like. We must be articulate to educate.

That being said, I’m a little more … alarmist… forward thinking… conservative… I’m not sure what the term would be. I do not accept that trafficking can be or should be narrowly defined or confined to forced prostitution. I foresee a day when trafficking will include all forms of exploitation in which force, coercion, threat, or authority is used to generate a profit. This would include (but not be limited to) sextortion, child pornography, amateur & professional pornography, child molestation, prostitution, and servitude. Including all these would require a massive overhaul of legal definitions and wide acceptance that bartered goods/service, digital currency, and power brokering are forms of currency and profit.

This brings us back to these young women. If things played out the way I suspect they would have, I think the likely outcome would have been in the form of amateur pornography. The details are too much for this forum, but suffice to say, there is a demand for pornography that depicts unresponsive women being exploited. A very high demand.

Therein lies the problem. Had the friend not been present and the drugging been effective, the law would not have treated their attackers as traffickers. They would have faced a slew of charges, but not that big fat federal beef that could put them all in federal prison for consecutive terms.

I know victims of this form of ambush pornography, who were drugged or taken advantage of while inebriated. I know a couple that fell prey to modeling scams and ended up in threatening situations that they didn’t know how to get out of. They don’t expect to get justice because most people view pornography as victimless and (in spite of 20 years of date rape education) still feel that partaking on alcohol or drugs, or answering an ad is consenting to anything that happens after. We pretend that this has changed, but it hasn’t.

I say this more often than I like, but I don’t know the right answer here. Do we criminalize more things? Mandatory minimum sentences? I know what I’d like to see, but I’m not an expert. The only thing I absolutely know for sure, is that we need to be talking about it. Talk about date rape, pornography, voyeurism, crimes against children, trafficking. When one is brought up, discuss them all. When NONE are brought up, discuss them all. There are a handful of things that [I know for certain] absolutely must happen if we’re going to impact the supply and demand for sex and labor exploitation, but the absolute FIRST thing that must happen is the dialogue.

Link to article here

I stand with Corey

I remember the first time my dad told me about the evils of pedophilia and child predators. At the time, I could never imagine what made him tell me that day. It was perfect. I was maybe 9 years old. We were sitting out on the picnic table, stargazing, talking about his youth. He sobered and says, “Kimberly, do you know about the wolves?”  I was still cheery from a story about a lhasa apso and neighbor child.  “No, what wolves?”A tiny piece of my youth ended that night.  He didn’t talk in euphemism or gentle terms. He told me what darkness looked like, what it wanted, how it hid. “I don’t care if it’s a friend, a teacher, or the president, there is not a threat or force on Earth more powerful than me. You know that. So, when I give you permission to say or do whatever you need to, you will never be in trouble for protecting yourself… or anyone else…”

When he trailed off he was looking down at our neighbor’s house. My best friends lived there. Two little girls. That pause and his quiet darkness, still makes me so sad. He was a superhuman force of nature. My daddy was everything he promised, but he couldn’t be everywhere. He had to give me some of his superpowers.

It wasn’t planned, but tonight, I had to tell my kids almost the same thing. They’ve always been told to speak up and get help. Because of my work, they have been told about grooming and certain types of deviants. Yesterday, my son saw what happens when no one around them has been told… given permission to fight to protect themselves. Or maybe, they weren’t even taught to recognize danger. So much paraphilia has been normalized and celebrated, it’s hard to tell.

“You will never ever be in trouble for confrontation. Use your tools. Speak up. If you say it, the other kids around you will know it’s okay to fight too! You are stronger than you know. And no consequence from a bunch of administrators could ever be worse than what will happen to your body or your soul, if you do nothing.” In a lot of ways, I know that this won’t make our kids invincible, but we can’t be everywhere.  All we can do is share our superpowers with them.

If you’ve been reading long, you can probably guess that my kids think I inherited my dad’s mantle of superhuman force of nature. I can’t let them down. As adults, we’re not released from that obligation or permission to stand up and be vocal when we see evil. It won’t always work. We’ll be met with opposition, ignorance, and complacency, but we still have to keep fighting. I think that’s why the trafficking world found me. My dad never gave me permission to quit fighting. I’ll never give it to my kids.

So, when I see a survivor speak out, I have to be sure they know they’re not alone. Corey Feldman grew up in a world of institutional rape and vile atrocity. Compared to stories of the survivors I’ve met from Appalachia, take out the glitz factor, and their stories are so similar. Day after day, he and his costars were subjected to casting couches, passed around parties, plied with drugs and booze, and when they get too old, thrown out.  He survived. The same can’t be said for all his contemporaries. He’s probably been drowning in the survivor’s guilt forever.

I’ve spent my whole life watching child stars fall, crash, fade. I’m not surprised by the current Hollywood shake-up. When it’s not on some heart rending “where are they now” interview, you can see the open secret being broadcast in the movies these criminals make. Don’t believe me? Watch Scream 3.  Weinstein isn’t the only guy from the credits that is being called out for rape and abuse.

What IMDB is too polite to spoil is that Sidney Prescott’s mom was an actress that got raped at a casting party (apparently, she was told to expect it) which caused a pregnancy, that produced a serial killer. From there, said psycho was unleashed on a 3 film killing spree.  This, concluded with the murderer going after of a bunch of actors, that were also exploited for sex so they could get in the very movie that would be their doom. There’s a literary term for what that is, but I just see it as open bragging.

Still not convinced? He and Corey Haim talked openly about it in 2007 and 2008. Then, the ladies of The View (Bawbwa particularly) blew him off.  This is another interview from 2013. How hypocritical, that when a man cries rape, no one gives a shit?

 

If Corey wants to make this film and do what no talkshow host or publisher has been willing to, let’s make it happen. I’m not completely selfless.  I hope that this will help fight trafficking and exploitation too. I figure, we have to cut off demand and  demand isn’t limited to powerful Hollywood types and politicians. This might put a pretty decent dent in it.

One last thing. Watch the video I link to for “bawbwa”. Look at her body language and dismissive gesture when he says “People want me dead. People do not want me here.” I remember her interviewing Anne Heche during a psychotic break. Bawbwa kept a sympathetic and interested face, the whole time the actress talked about how she was a 4th dimensional being. But she couldn’t muster a shoulder pat for a man she’s known since he was 14? If that’s not a clue….